Masturbation is considered by many to be the cornerstone of sexual health. Most men believe that they already know everything about their own genitals and sexual response. It’s all out there, boys will be boys, etc. But just because you know how your tools work, doesn’t mean you can build the Eiffel Tower.
Make Time for More Than a Quickie
Most guys learn to masturbate in secret and furtive ways. They do it quickly and when evidence exists, they need to figure out what to do with it afterward. This can create a powerful pattern of masturbating quickly, without paying attention to where your sexual arousal can take you. To start exploring something different, make sure you have some extended time and privacy for yourself when you aren’t trying to finish before someone interrupts.
Turn Off the Porn (For Now)
Not everyone likes pornography, but a lot of guys do. And while porn can be great, the fantasizing and projection takes you out of your body, at least a little. This can distract you from what’s actually happening inside your body. You don’t need to throw the porn away, but for a few times, masturbate without it and notice the differences in sensations.
Do a Dry Run-Through
Bad pun aside, it’s a good idea to try the above suggestions, and then just masturbate as you normally would. As you do this, pay attention to:
- Changes in your breathing. Does it become shallow and quick, slower and deeper?