For starters, it doesn’t just feel good—solo play is legit good for you. “Masturbation releases stress and anxiety,” says Leah Millheiser, MD, clinical assistant professor and director of female sexual medicine at Stanford University Medical Center.
“We know that you get total-body relaxation after an orgasm, which is great for someone who is tense,” she adds. “Masturbation also increases blood flow to the genitals, which is important because blood flow keeps the vagina healthy.”
In other words, you should probably consider adding it to your self-care Sunday routine ASAP.
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Plus, flicking the bean is crazy-good for your sex life in all sorts of ways. For one, it may help you get more comfortable in bed. “People who don’t masturbate are more likely to have difficulty reaching orgasm with a partner,” Millheiser explains.
And if you bring your S.O. into the action, you might feel closer to them—orgasms release oxytocin, a powerful hormone, that make you want to bond with the person next to you, she adds.
Now, all that good stuff said, the only problem is not knowing how to start to guarantee a better finish. (It’s not like pleasuring yourself was covered in sex ed, and your parents certainly didn’t include female masturbation in The Talk.)
Of course, there’s no right or wrong way to masturbate (to each vagina her own!), but these expert-approved tips and tricks will not only teach you how to best pleasure yourself—but also take your self-made orgasm to the next level.
1. Bust out a mirror.
Before you can “rock your body” Justin Timberlake–style, you first have to know your body.