My Interview About Strap-on Sex

My Interview

Today’s interview will be a discussion on strap-on sex with a female well experienced in the FemDom life. I will find out what type of power it gives females in a dominant lifestyle.  She also has a way of using words for taking us through her thoughts on various topics such as long-distance relationships, FemDom and positive feminism. Of course, she does poetry and other things from time to time, but today we’re going to sit down and discuss strapon sex.

Strap-on Sex
Strap-on Sex

Question: Do you find wearing a strap-on puts you in control or gives you power over the submissive partner?

I would not directly state that it gives me ‘power’, as that would be too much like saying men have power because they constantly have an attached penis. Although, we live in a society where men possess dominance, power and strength just by being a man, this is very much symbolized through the penis.

I feel in control while wearing a strap-on because that is what my partner is wanting and expecting as we’ve previously discussed our limits.

Question: What is it about wearing a strap-on or alternative symbol of male power during sex that you enjoy most?

First, I want to state that I do not feel I am the dominant role simply due to wearing a strap-on. Being a Dom is more than having a penis, it is at the very basis an emotional, physical and mutual connection with your submissive partner. It is my own strengths that I feel make me a good dominant partner, as I am able to exert my dominance in a way that is taken seriously, but also while being an exciting turn on.

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A FemDom experience is just as much psychological as physical. I have always been outgoing and controlling, so I simply harnessed this trait and it led me to finding out I prefer being the dominant partner and loving the lifestyle.

However, as you mentioned, ‘male power’ is often the symbol of this lifestyle. The key is to be strong, but you don’t want to be so strong it scares your partner. The same goes for being assertive, rather than masculine, the issue with FemDom relationships in my opinion is labels. There are too many labels that create problems of knowing where to start, and this goes for what to wear for BDSM. The truth is, latex is not everyone’s go-to, some prefer leather, for example.

Question: Okay, but do you feel stronger wearing a strap-on compared to lingerie?

This is a loaded question, but it depends on the partner. Of course, if I was with a man, I would feel more in control and powerful with lingerie, as I can use his desires to control him how I want. However, while us ladies can be attracted to lingerie too, the strap-on would be more powerful at gaining control over a female submissive. Part of being a good Dom is being able to know what and how to gain control of the situation.

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